Gently Dissolving Demand Resistance

Gently Dissolving Demand Resistance Dissolving demand resistance must be done gently because a direct assault will lead to it becoming as adamant as iron. To get around demand resistance, something as simple as changing the language we use with an addicted loved one can make a big difference. Exploring the roots of demand resistance is, [...]

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Origins of Negative Self-talk

Origins of Negative Self-talk The origins of negative self-talk can be varied, but certain circumstances inevitably cause it. Particularly, adverse situations in childhood that persist can cause a pattern of negative thinking with long lasting effects. Some examples are poverty, abuse, neglect, abandonment and other chronic traumatic events. The same is true in adulthood if [...]

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Damaging Relationships with Negative Thinking

Damaging Relationships with Negative Thinking Damaging relationships with negative thinking can happen in various ways. Identifying how your negative thoughts interfere with how you relate to others is a first step in reversing this painful and self-sabotaging dynamic. Some negative thought patterns that undermine happy and successful relationships are: Habitually focusing on what's wrong Blaming [...]

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Addressing Negative Thoughts for Improved Mood

Addressing Negative Thoughts for Improved Mood Addressing negative thoughts can dramatically improve a depressed mood. Negative thoughts are symptoms of depression, but beyond that, they also contribute to depression--that is, they drive the depressive process. In short, depression sets up a vicious cycle in which symptoms arise that cause more symptoms. This dynamic causes depression [...]

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Negative Thoughts–Learning to Identify Them

Negative Thoughts--Learning to Identify Them Negative thoughts are the cause of all sorts of problems. Chief among them is chronic depression which is full of negative thinking and its consequences bearing down on us day in and day out. It is an oppressive state in mind, body, heart and spirit. Identify Negative Thoughts for Greater [...]

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When Our Thinking Harms Recovery

When Our Thinking Harms Recovery Thinking harms recovery when it doesn't reflect reality. Reality can be grim no doubt about that. It can surely be painful. Addiction is caused by a complex interaction of biological and environmental conditions that cause a perfect storm of dysfunction. Addiction is, however, typically based on either a pleasure reflex [...]

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Avoiding Truth–Chasing Illusions with Substance Use

Avoiding Truth--Chasing Illusions with Substance Use Avoiding truth is one of the most persistent goals in active addiction. Intoxication experiences take us out of our Young man cocaine addicted looking with temptation to white powder. Focus on white powder present reality temporarily, but they are very effective over the course of the illness. [...]

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Exceptionalism–I’m Not Like Those Other People

Exceptionalism—I’m Not Like Those Other People Exceptionalism is the belief that one is superior to most and does not have to conform to the norms or principles that others do. The Macmillan Dictionary defines exceptional as: extremely good or impressive in a way that is unusual; unusual in an interesting way; much more or greater than usual.  Of [...]

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Self-Deception–Believing Our Own Lies

Self-Deception--Believing Our Own Lies Self-deception happens when we lie to ourselves. We might convince ourselves that something is true when it isn't, for example. Or, we might convince ourselves that a truth is not real. However our self-deception occurs, it hurts us. We might feel some benefit in the immediate moment, but overall self-deception is [...]

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Dishonesty and Lying–Avoiding Reality

Dishonesty and Lying--Avoiding Reality Dishonesty is an effort to avoid the truth, and we are dishonest for many self-serving reasons. We try to deflect and diffuse confrontation, for example. We also seek to avoid rejection and to manipulate others for some gain. Additionally, we can be dishonest with ourselves, trying to avoid the discomfort of [...]

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