Catastrophic Thinking–Fuel for Fear

Catastrophic Thinking--Fuel for Fear Catastrophic thinking is also known as end of the world thinking, or projecting into a negative future.  It is a pattern of thought that is as dramatic and alarming as those terms suggest. Catastrophic thinking is known as a thought distortion or thinking error. Thinking problems like these are found in all [...]

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Thought Distortions and Limiting Beliefs

Thought Distortions and Limiting Beliefs Thought distortions and limiting beliefs go hand in hand in active addiction and codependency. Both conditions distort our images of ourselves, others and the world. We operate with altered perceptions and unhealthy beliefs that pervade our lives, and in recovery, are challenged to change these dynamics. Some examples of common [...]

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Complaints and Blame–Dodging Responsibility

Complaints and Blame--Dodging Responsibility Complaints and blame are kinfolk. They are tangled up in each other and if you hear one of them from someone, you will soon hear the other. Whenever we try to dodge our own responsibilities and let ourselves off the hook of accountability, you'll soon hear complaints and blame. It's an [...]

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Chronic Blaming–Abusing Others Emotionally

Chronic Blaming--Abusing Others Emotionally Chronic blaming is a form of abusing others. It targets the emotional well-being of the person who is blamed and can induce a great deal of distress. It is often a demonstration of thinking distortions and the blamer's unwillingness to accept responsibility, participate in a solution and have empathy for others. [...]

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Forms of Aggression–Complaints and Blame

Forms of Aggression--Complaints and Blame Forms of aggression can range from physical violence to words that are spoken word or even left unspoken. Aggression is something used in many settings, situations and contexts. It can be a self-protective act, for example. When someone violates our boundaries aggression is an attempt to neutralize a threat. Or, [...]

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A Negative Life Focus–Living in the Problem not the Solution

A Negative Life Focus--Living in the Problem not the Solution A negative life focus is a long term pattern of focusing on the problems of life rather than upon solving the problems of life. It's a perceptual bias most commonly called pessimism or a pessimistic viewpoint. None of us live problem free lives, but many of [...]

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Grudges–What They Are and Why We Hold Them

Grudges--What They Are and Why We Hold Them Grudges are persistent feelings of ill will or resentment toward someone that result from a previous insult or injury. They are often filled with hope for justice or revenge... that the other person will come to some harm, 'comeuppance' or feel as bad as we have felt, [...]

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Depressed Addicted Women — Issues in Treatment and Recovery

Depressed Addicted Women -- Issues in Treatment and Recovery Depressed addicted women are quite common.  Women tend to be vulnerable to a substance-induced depression, for example.  Women are also likely to have had a pre-existing depression before their substance use started.  If women with both conditions do not resolve their depression, there is a higher [...]

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Depressive Thinking–Self-Defeating Beliefs

Depressive Thinking--Self-Defeating Beliefs Depressive thinking is a significant factor in any depressive illness. What we think triggers how we feel and what we do or don't do. Depressed thoughts set up a vicious cycle in any type of depression. They stem from the illness and perpetuate the illness. For example, a symptom of depression is [...]

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Gently Dissolving Demand Resistance

Gently Dissolving Demand Resistance Dissolving demand resistance must be done gently because a direct assault will lead to it becoming as adamant as iron. To get around demand resistance, something as simple as changing the language we use with an addicted loved one can make a big difference. Exploring the roots of demand resistance is, [...]

By | November 13th, 2016|Blog, Thinking Distortions|Comments Off on Gently Dissolving Demand Resistance