Making up for Lost Time – Rebuilding Relationships in Recovery


iStock_000010424286_SmallMaking up for lost time is something that many who are overcoming an addiction feel like they have to do. When you suddenly realize that you’re clean and sober and have quite a lot of damage to undo, things can feel pretty daunting. How will you ever be able to undo the damage you did to your life? Is there any way to just delete all the pain and heartache your addiction has caused? Unfortunately, there is no easy way to make things better while you’re in recovery, but if you are willing to do the work that comes with addiction recovery, you’ll likely find that you do a pretty good job repairing and rebuilding those damaged relationships.

It’s about sincerity

When you’re making up for lost time and trying to make amends with your loved ones, you need to be sincere about how you feel. Your loved ones can tell when you’re saying things to make them feel better, and they won’t be excited to hear it. If you are trying to fix those relationships that were damaged in the past, it’s time to start being sincere about the things you tell your loved ones. Also, if you feel like you’re going to want to lie about something, just tell them that you really don’t want to talk about it.

It’s really important to be real and truthful, because this is the basis of any strong relationship, and it will help you when working on making up for lost time.

Letting your loved ones take time

It’s also important to remember that your loved ones might need a little time to get used to the idea of what you’re telling them. They may want to rebuild slowly. This is their right and it’s important to respect them and their wishes and be willing to take things a little slowly.

Taking your time, and being willing to when you’re overcoming an addiction and trying to make amends can help to foster strong healthy relationships, and you’ll be able to tryst that your loved ones really know who you are and accept you. You’ll be able to enjoy a richer life full of the true connections that you have probably been craving, too, and that can help your recovery efforts.

Making up for lost time in addiction recovery is tempting, but it’s important to remember that you’re building your new life – not running a race. So, take your time and enjoy the process. Fixing damaged relationships takes time, but in the end, it’s the best thing you’ve ever done.