Internal Detachment–Freedom from Chaos

Internal Detachment--Freedom from Chaos Internal detachment is perhaps very different than the detachment you might think of. Typically, we think of detaching from toxic people by setting limits and boundaries with them so we can live a healthier life. This is particularly true for the loved ones of people with addictions. Loved ones can be [...]

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Learning Psychological Strength–Building Resilience

Learning Psychological Strength--Building Resilience Learning psychological strength is a concept that strikes some as impossible. Many people believe that we are inherently strong or not--much like people tend to believe that an artist is born an artist. Such beliefs overlook the value of experience, learning and practice in making us psychologically strong as well as [...]

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Intimacy Fear in Addiction and Codependency

Intimacy Fear in Addiction and Codependency Intimacy fear is a common characteristic of both addiction and codependency. It is frequently an unconscious issue reflected in a series of frustrating and even puzzling occurrences such as failed relationships, relationships with emotionally unavailable people, relationships with impaired people or people who are self-absorbed, abusive, etc. The pain [...]

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Abandonment–A Lingering Problem in Addiction and Codependency

Abandonment Issues--Lingering Problems in Addiction and Codependency Abandonment issues in childhood create lingering problems for people, many of whom later develop an addiction or codependency. In fact, the fear of abandonment creates a great many difficulties and distress for most people with one of these conditions long after childhood trauma has passed. Being abandoned in [...]

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Protecting Yourself Better–Relapse Prevention Strategy 101

Protecting Yourself Better--Relapse Prevention Strategy 101 Protecting yourself better is an essential in recovery from addiction and codependency. In fact, it really is the essence of what a good relapse prevention plan is all about. However, taking better care of yourself in recovery can feel not only like a full-time job but like you're working extra [...]

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Survival Strategies–Dealing with Toxic People

Survival Strategies--Dealing with Toxic People Survival strategies for toxic family interactions are needed more than ever during the holiday season, even though most of us could use them year round as everyday coping mechanisms. The holidays, however, seem to magnify the problems we have with others, particularly those we are related to. We may become [...]

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Release Toxic Relationships for a Healthier New Year

Release Toxic Relationships for a Healthier New Year Release toxic relationships in the New Year. It may be the best resolution you've ever made if you are like most of us who come from families in which there is addiction or codependency. If interactions with particular people leave you consistently feeling bad about yourself, agitated [...]

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Steps to Help You Stop Being a Victim

Steps to Help You Stop Being a Victim I used to hear people use the term “victim” when it came to relationships and had no idea what they were talking about. I also heard “victim mentality” and was clueless. I believe this is because I was at that time living as a victim with a [...]

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Complaining–a Style of Communication and Coping

Complaining--A Style of Communication and Coping Complaining is common. In fact, it is a significant part of how we communicate with each other. Think about Image of stressed woman during meeting wuth personal coach strangers waiting for a train or bus or riding an elevator. If you speak to each other, you're likely [...]

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Forgiveness Defined–Would It Help You?

Forgiveness Defined--Would It Help You? Forgiveness defined in terms of the forgiver can make the whole issue far more understandable and perhaps more appealing. It is not unusual for us to hold a grudge when we feel we have been wronged. We can withhold compassion or 'meeting of the minds' while we wait for an [...]

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