When you’re struggling with your loved one’s addiction, you probably know that lots of people are going through the exact same thing. They hurt, too. They’re miserable and trying to make sense of the mess their lives have become, too. But, isn’t it possible that millions of families around the world struggle with the addictions of their loved ones because of more than just the heartache of it?
In fact, when you’re feeling like you cannot stand another moment of your loved one and her addiction, but you feel bad for having certain feelings, you need to know that you’re not alone. You might be surprised to hear what some of the most common causes of struggles really are:
- Your loved one’s addiction makes you argue with your spouse. It’s crazy, but when you have a loved one struggling with an addiction, if it’s not your spouse, you can bet your spouse will have an opinion of it, and it probably won’t be your opinion. It’s common for one half of a couple to harbor resentment and anger, and even for relationships to break up.
- Your loved one’s addiction is driving you broke. Whether your addicted loved one lives with you, or needs you to help with things like rides, paying bills and buying groceries, chances are that you’re going broke from all the trouble of your loved one not being able to support himself. This is one area that many families get fed up fast. It might be where you’re struggling too.
- You don’t have any time to do what you want to do. When you’re struggling with your loved one’s addiction, you’re likely feeling like you don’t have any time to yourself. Your loved one comes and does what she wants to do. She disrupts your time and takes whatever she feels like and leaves you to clean up her mess. This is going to wear you down fast. It’s also a pretty large source of anger.
- You’re just tired of the whole thing. There comes a point where those who are forced to deal with their loved one’s addictions just get tired of it. They get sick of wishing, praying, and hoping. They get sick of trying to change what they cannot control, and in a way, these people are broken.
If you’re struggling with your loved one’s addiction, you’re not alone. You’re also not alone in being angry with your loved one and the whole situation. It’s more common than you realize, and most of all, there is help. There are others who feel just like you do, and they are waiting to talk to you. Why not look into a group like Al-anon to help you start building a connection with other families going through the same thing as you are?