Anxiety over a loved one’s recovery is common. When you finally get your loved one to seek treatment, it can seem almost too good to be true. You might be thinking that you’re living a dream. You want to breathe and relax, but you just can’t seem to. It’s like you want to remind your loved one that you’re still waiting for him to be officially clean and sober.  So, you mean well, but you nag. This causes your loved one to feel stress, and pull away, and it causes you to be confused as to what’s happening with your loved one.

worriedThis is what it’s like to have anxiety over a loved one’s recovery. Unchecked, it can cause relationship issues, so you want to learn how to calm your endless worry and let your loved one get to the business of addiction recovery. These tips can help you ease your anxiety and start living your life for you again, while allowing your loved one to live his recovery on his terms:

  • Seek therapy. Nothing will ease anxiety over a loved one’s recovery like seeking therapy to help you cope with the situation. You’ve been spending a lot of time worrying about your addicted loved one. You’ve probably had many sleepless nights, and you’re tired of having to worry. But that doesn’t stop you from doing it. Now, the anxiety turns into monsters during those quiet moments. You might worry what will happen if your loved one doesn’t make it through recovery. If your loved one decides that something is wrong with your relationship. If your loved one decides to stay far away. These are all unfounded worries that you need help sorting through. Therapy can help.
  • Find new activities. You need something to do. Sitting around worrying all day isn’t helpful to you or anyone in your life. So, find something you enjoy doing. Your loved one is in recovery and it’s time for you to start living again. Get out there and start enjoying your life again.
  • Be grateful for the reprieve. Even if your loved one doesn’t make it through rehab, you now have learned how to set your boundaries and know what life is without the toxic situation of his addiction. When your loved one is away, it’s time for you to regroup and start living stress free for a while, and be grateful for the chance to do so.
  • Do for you. It seems selfish, but you can help to ease the worry over your loved one’s recovery by focusing on you for a little bit. What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? What would you like to do for you, with your extra money? It’s time to start living for you.

Anxiety over a loved one’s addiction is often based off unfounded fears and an inability to relax. It’s common, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy. So, if you want to make the most of your loved one’s recovery and ensure it’s a healthy experience for everyone, it’s time to work on overcoming the fear and start making the most of the possibilities.