6 Tips to Beat Fear and Succeed in Recovery & Life
I’m fairly certain that you want to succeed in every area of your life. If you’re thinking of getting in recovery, or if you are in recovery from alcoholism or drug addiction, then beating fear and succeeding is certainly important to you.
Wouldn’t it be nice to wake up every morning in a happy mood, knowing that your day is going to go just as you planned? Your relationship is good and getting better. Your job is good and getting even better. You’re getting more confident, making better choices, becoming more fit, happier and healthier…
Sure, wouldn’t we all like that? Granted, some people experience that, but the majority of people sort of dread waking up in the morning. I mean, sure, they value life, but much of the time they do not want to get up and go to their job. They don’t want to have to contend with the stress in their life. They may be miserable in their relationship or have some sort of conflict or drama in their life. Waking up to such negative factors just doesn’t sound very appealing, does it?
What to do when you’re stuck?
I used to be afraid of a lot of things. I spent a good many years not even realizing what I was afraid of, yet I was stuck in various areas of my life. I was stuck in my relationship, in my finances, in my career, in my mind, and more.
But one thing I committed to doing was investing in learning success principles in various areas. If there’s one thing I’ve learned through life is that:
If one thing is not working, then do something different.
I know that if I want success in any area, there are people that have already accomplished success in that area. That gives me hope and that motivates me to start learning from those people and implementing some of the same strategies that they have. It’s not a one-size-fits-all model, but there are tried-and-true success principles in all areas that each one of us can implement in our lives. If you do, you are much more likely to accomplish success yourself.
Today I’d like to share 10 tips to help you overcome fears that you may have when it comes to succeeding in your relationships, recovery, career, and life in general.
1. Face your fear head-on
You may feel like a little mouse looking at these ginormous fears. You feel like if you take one step forward, they will topple on top of you and crush you. I’m here to tell you that you can change your perspective so that when you see yourself, you do not see yourself as a mouse, but as of roaring lion able to overcome and face any fear that comes your way.
Now, first of all, you must admit that you have some fears. If you’re not sure what they are, then it’s time to do some soul-searching. Are you afraid of failing? Relapsing? I’m going to give you a tidbit of information that will help you. There is no such thing as failure. If something doesn’t work out as planned, that does not mean that you have failed and that does not make it a failure. If that were the case, every time a toddler fell down while learning how to walk, that would make him a failure. What do we do when the toddler falls down? We encourage the toddler to get back up and try again. And the toddler does without thinking anything of it. It’s time to put away the excuses and face your fears head-on.
2. Slay your excuses
A good deal of people who complain a lot have so many excuses as to why life doesn’t go their way. Why their life sucks so much. Why nothing ever works out for them. It’s excuse after excuse and it’s always pointing the finger at other people or the world.
But if you want to succeed in any area in life, and that includes recovery, you’re going to have to slay those excuses. You’re going to have to stop pointing fingers at other people and point them directly yourself. You’re going to have to take full responsibility for your life on all levels. So, face your fear and stop making excuses. It’s really that simple.
3. Stop putting things off
Oh, I have been a procrastinator before. I went through a period in my 30s where I realized that I would always wait until the last minute to do things. Whether that was to pay a bill, clean the house, call someone back on the telephone, or other tasks, I just didn’t take care of myself very well in some areas. Granted, I’m not perfect now, but I understand the principle of having a plan and taking action immediately and regularly in order to get results.
You probably know if you are a procrastinator or not. If you do put things off until the last minute, that could very well be a sign that you are on the lazy side. You may also procrastinate because you have a fear of moving forward. Perhaps what you have to do may be challenging, so you postpone the task because of this. But listen, if you really want to achieve success in recovery or any area, you’re going to have to make a decision to stop procrastinating. Make a list and get to checking off your tasks!
4. Work it
I know the law of attraction people would love to have you believe that all you have to do is think about success and visualize it and it will come and fall on your lap. And I certainly do agree that the law of attraction is real. I believe that our thoughts matter, as well as our emotions. We ought to be visualizing the kind of life we want. However, the majority of the time success is going to come when you work it. When you use some grit and grind. Adopt the word grind in your vocabulary. Do you have grind? Do you have grit? Do you have what it takes to get ‘er done? The reality is that success in and out of recovery takes hard work. I’m not saying that it always takes excruciating hard work, but it will require something.
It may take mental work. It might take you reading books or going to seminars. It might mean taking your passion that you have for a new business and going all out for it. It might mean changing up your recovery strategy. It’s going to cost you something. It’s not going to just fall on your lap and if you think it is or if you think that those who are successful had it handed to them, you’re wrong. You may see someone in the limelight now, but what about the 20 years you didn’t see them grinding away working their butts off consistently? Successful people are successful because they’ve done some things behind the scenes that maybe no one else ever knows about. And you will do well if you will commit to grit and grind as a way of life.
5. Successful people don’t just do half jobs
If you do something half way, including your recovery, you’re just setting yourself up for less than success. I think about the millennial generation sometimes. They think they’re entitled to so much and give such a little effort. They think their little effort should be rewarded in some major way and this actually irritates me. The spirit of entitlement is not attractive. There are many of us who bust our butts day in and day out and that’s wonderful because we actually love what we do, but we don’t expect things to just be handed to us. We work hard and smart and we’re giving at the same time. Doing just enough to get by will just get you by. You’ll be mediocre and you might think you’re doing yourself a favor, but you are not. If you get quiet with yourself, you’ll feel disappointment nagging at you.
6. Help as many people as you can
If you want to be successful in and out of recovery, help other people be successful. Help them however it is that you’re gifted to help them. Give them amazing products. Give them amazing service. Give them amazing quality time. Resist the urge to just think about selling products or services and think about the actual human beings that you are reaching. Think about what kind of days they’re having are what kind of struggles they’re having.
Can you really help them solve a problem? Can you really help ease suffering among mankind? We don’t all have to reach the masses in order to see change on this planet. If each of us will simply help as many people as we can in an honest and compassionate way, we can see a change in the world. When we’re helping others, we feel better about ourselves. That’s just the way it works. Whether you’re helping 10 people or ten million people, the numbers aren’t the issue. What matters is that you have a pure heart that is wanting to be successful in a way that adds value to humanity.
Now, there are just several tips to help you overcome any fear that’s holding you back from moving forward in your recovery and life. These tips also serve as some great motivational mojo. Remember that life is a journey and its progress we’re after. Regardless of where you’re at right now, I encourage you to adopt the perspective that you can get to a better place. It might take time and it will certainly take effort, but you can get there.
If you need help, simply reach out to someone and get the help that you need. No one must struggle alone. No one ought to have to suffer alone.
What types of fears are holding you back? In what ways you want to be successful? How’s your recovery going? What are your goals and your dreams for the next few months? For the next year? Do you have any concrete ones?
Take an inventory today. If you’ve been stuck in the same cycle for a long time, consider seeking addiction treatment. You might be surprised at the difference a stay in rehab or an intensive outpatient program can have on your whole recovery lifestyle. When you’re ready, we’re here to help.